I had taken a hiatus from posting on my blog for a variety of reasons. That break ends today as it is the only format adequate to express my feelings during the loss of a friend: Sadie Hawkins. 140 characters just won’t suffice to describe the friendship we shared.
What set Sadie apart from other Pro Dommes that I encountered in my career was her outward level of poise and aplomb. Her manners were impeccable. She conducted herself in public as one should. We would see each other in passing at certain events and she was always cordial. The difference was that her salutations didn’t seem inauthentic. She had something unique to say to each person passing. You felt good after greeting Sadie. You genuinely wanted to walk up and speak to her because the interaction would be positive.
Thus, after all these times of meeting and greeting, two years ago, Sadie took things one step further. She invited me to her studio to work and attend a CFNM party she was hosting. I am always eager to work with other Pro Dommes. This seemed like a fantastic opportunity to ply my trade and see how Sadie ran her business.
I’m not gonna lie…My first visit to see her was challenging. This had nothing to do with her, but rather her slave who decided to end their relationship within a few hours of me arriving to the studio. This was one of the most disruptive and selfish things I have ever encountered in all my years of Femdom. Sadie handled the situation with style and grace though. As is tradition, when slaves drop the ball—the Mistresses stand up and finish what was started. We don’t have slaves handle tasks because we can’t, we have them do them because we CAN. Sadie and I picked up the slack and the CFNM party was a success. More importantly, she demonstrated to me how she lived her true Femdom Lifestyle to its fullest. During our time together that weekend, we shared many idea, stories and thoughts about the past, present, and future. We discussed our vision about “how things should be.” The slave who thought she had ruined everything, had actually brought us closer together. That’s how it works when slaves think they are going to win…
Over the past two years, the visit that I had with her blossomed into a wonderful friendship. We kept in touch on a regular basis. What set Sadie apart from other people I know is that she didn’t use the lines of communication to bitch or complain all the time. She didn’t only send me texts of when something was going wrong. She didn’t only have to share drama in her life. Our primary concern was our businesses, but we seemed to know what to say outside of those circumstances. Ultimately, Sadie wanted to help. She went out of her way to contact me about things she knew I needed to know. And that brings me to the type of person that Sadie was: GOOD.
When we use the phrase GOOD PEOPLE, that describes Sadie in a nutshell. We Dominas are supposed to be haughty and selfish. Sadie was anything but that. She ran her business in a straight-up manner, but also was very active in the Lifestyle Community in her area. I witnessed her interactions with them during my last trip in March. The level of outreach and care that she demonstrated blew my mind. I don’t have enough of me to go around to behave in that manner. So yes, I guess I AM selfish. That is why Sadie’s death is such a cruel and terrible tragedy. She only ever appeared to be trying to do the right thing. Yes, I am sad for the loss of a friendship, but I grieve more for those whose lives she made better.
Death during the holiday season is never easy. My own personal story has a tale of tragedy at this time of year. It has affected my feelings about Christmas ever since. That doesn’t mean that there aren’t reasons to still celebrate what we have. Use this incredible loss of life to examine the friendships you DO have and to strengthen them. If you have been meaning to spend more time with someone—DO IT. Don’t put it off. Make that phone call. Send that text. Tell someone how much they mean to you. You might not get the opportunity tomorrow. And yes, that IS an order!